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How to Say Good-bye
Filed Under (Forums) by admin on 29-08-2009
Tagged Under : Bitter Taste, Bridges, Good Time, Losers, Saying Good Bye
Brjimc asked:
There are many ways one could say good-bye. Saying good-bye is an art. Anyone can say hello but how you say good-bye could make a relationship or but a bitter taste the mouth of your internet acquaintances and friends.
Saying a proper good-bye is an essential part of the moving on process or maintaining any relationship. In actuality, it doesn’t take much on your part, just a simple smile and a few warm words.
There are many benefits to saying good-bye. You will not have to tolerate the bickering of other forum members that you could not move yourself to ignore, you won’t need to apologize for giving them a well deserved dressing down, and you can go where the grass is greener just to go through the whole process once again.
However, some folks you will want to remember, stay in contact with, or even meet again. Saying a proper good-bye isn’t just a whim of retaliation against your foes, a fit of rage as a result of your foes, or retaliation against the people who won’t let you have your way, the way you want it, when you want it. It is the continuation of the friendships you have made, staying in touch with people who care for you and perhaps one day coming back to to meet them again and have a good time sharing experiences together. It is this which is the reason why saying a proper good-bye is so very important. Never burn your bridges! You may find that you will want to cross them again someday!
Some things to remember
First, don’t burn your bridges! Relatonships (even internet ones) are like bridges that take us from one place to another. So, when we “burn our bridges” we destroy our relationships with others and it is very difficult to go back.
For example, Sarah doesn’t get her way, doesn’t see it their way, sees her relationships with a couple people as worthless. She then gets into a major blow out with forum staff and posts a bitter, drawn out, “see ya losers” post, adding a vengeful and vulgar piece of mind on what she thinks of certain people and the forum.
Why would she want to go burning her bridges like that? Someday she might want to come back there again. “Don’t burn your bridges” means that it is important for one to remember the value of the relationships that get you where you are and maintain, not damage, those relationships. It may come to pass that one day you would wish that you had not burned a particular bridge, because that relationship has now become more important than you realized at the time you burned that bridge.
It is not just the people who she despises that she has burned her bridges with, but also people who once were her friends and acquaintances. People who once admired certain qualities about her then realize something ugly about her that diminishes their trust in her judgment and character. Her reputation is compromised and reputation is something extremely difficult, if not impossible, to recover once it has been lost.
Second, never say good-bye and leave things unfinished. Breaching public trust, although is recoverable to some degree, can diminish or annihilate your reputation and people’s trust in you depending on how much people have relied on you. If you have official or unofficial responsibilities it is the same. Never leave them unfinished or without a competent person who is able and willing to take your place. Depending on the severity or the reasons for this sort of abrupt good-bye, you could burn a few bridges, or at least forever diminish peoples trust in your abilities to act responsibly and this effects relationships with both friends and acquaintances.
Third, if you are saying good-bye in protest of something, remember that you may lose trust and respect, even from your friends, if you appear to be, not capable of handling problems without leaving, whining, emotionally unstable, or a trouble maker. Don’t ever say good-bye in haste after getting emotional, upset or not having tried everything possible to resolve a problem!
Lastly, always leave on a positive note.
How to say good-bye
A good-bye doesn’t have to be long and drawn out. People don’t need to know your personal problems, detailed reasons for leaving, or to hear your protest.
Just give them a simple single paragraph explaining that you are saying ‘Good-bye’. Don’t give details. Just a ‘good-bye’ and a smile Explain when you will be seeing people again or checking-in and wish everyone a farewell.
If they ask, tell them in private via another mode of communication (perhaps email) if it is for negative reasons, but keep it simple and to the point without all of the prejudiced feelings you may have on the issue. Trying to steer a person’s mind on an issue can have the reverse effect and the person ends up loosing trust and respect for you and your ability to handle issues without leaving.
Good-byes should not be thought of as an end, but a chance for a new beginning. Hopefully, the next good-bye you make will leave people longing to see you again and happy when they do!
There are many ways one could say good-bye. Saying good-bye is an art. Anyone can say hello but how you say good-bye could make a relationship or but a bitter taste the mouth of your internet acquaintances and friends.
Saying a proper good-bye is an essential part of the moving on process or maintaining any relationship. In actuality, it doesn’t take much on your part, just a simple smile and a few warm words.
There are many benefits to saying good-bye. You will not have to tolerate the bickering of other forum members that you could not move yourself to ignore, you won’t need to apologize for giving them a well deserved dressing down, and you can go where the grass is greener just to go through the whole process once again.
However, some folks you will want to remember, stay in contact with, or even meet again. Saying a proper good-bye isn’t just a whim of retaliation against your foes, a fit of rage as a result of your foes, or retaliation against the people who won’t let you have your way, the way you want it, when you want it. It is the continuation of the friendships you have made, staying in touch with people who care for you and perhaps one day coming back to to meet them again and have a good time sharing experiences together. It is this which is the reason why saying a proper good-bye is so very important. Never burn your bridges! You may find that you will want to cross them again someday!
Some things to remember
First, don’t burn your bridges! Relatonships (even internet ones) are like bridges that take us from one place to another. So, when we “burn our bridges” we destroy our relationships with others and it is very difficult to go back.
For example, Sarah doesn’t get her way, doesn’t see it their way, sees her relationships with a couple people as worthless. She then gets into a major blow out with forum staff and posts a bitter, drawn out, “see ya losers” post, adding a vengeful and vulgar piece of mind on what she thinks of certain people and the forum.
Why would she want to go burning her bridges like that? Someday she might want to come back there again. “Don’t burn your bridges” means that it is important for one to remember the value of the relationships that get you where you are and maintain, not damage, those relationships. It may come to pass that one day you would wish that you had not burned a particular bridge, because that relationship has now become more important than you realized at the time you burned that bridge.
It is not just the people who she despises that she has burned her bridges with, but also people who once were her friends and acquaintances. People who once admired certain qualities about her then realize something ugly about her that diminishes their trust in her judgment and character. Her reputation is compromised and reputation is something extremely difficult, if not impossible, to recover once it has been lost.
Second, never say good-bye and leave things unfinished. Breaching public trust, although is recoverable to some degree, can diminish or annihilate your reputation and people’s trust in you depending on how much people have relied on you. If you have official or unofficial responsibilities it is the same. Never leave them unfinished or without a competent person who is able and willing to take your place. Depending on the severity or the reasons for this sort of abrupt good-bye, you could burn a few bridges, or at least forever diminish peoples trust in your abilities to act responsibly and this effects relationships with both friends and acquaintances.
Third, if you are saying good-bye in protest of something, remember that you may lose trust and respect, even from your friends, if you appear to be, not capable of handling problems without leaving, whining, emotionally unstable, or a trouble maker. Don’t ever say good-bye in haste after getting emotional, upset or not having tried everything possible to resolve a problem!
Lastly, always leave on a positive note.
How to say good-bye
A good-bye doesn’t have to be long and drawn out. People don’t need to know your personal problems, detailed reasons for leaving, or to hear your protest.
Just give them a simple single paragraph explaining that you are saying ‘Good-bye’. Don’t give details. Just a ‘good-bye’ and a smile Explain when you will be seeing people again or checking-in and wish everyone a farewell.
If they ask, tell them in private via another mode of communication (perhaps email) if it is for negative reasons, but keep it simple and to the point without all of the prejudiced feelings you may have on the issue. Trying to steer a person’s mind on an issue can have the reverse effect and the person ends up loosing trust and respect for you and your ability to handle issues without leaving.
Good-byes should not be thought of as an end, but a chance for a new beginning. Hopefully, the next good-bye you make will leave people longing to see you again and happy when they do!
